Have you ever wondered why someone might get angry at something but, you don’t understand why? Have you seen someone display hate openly, yet they don’t know the person or they don’t have a grasp of the circumstances? Have you yourself ever NOT followed through with something that may have been a Life Changing opportunity because of your emotional reaction, yet you’re not sure why? These are all FEAR driven responses based on fear based emotions.
Although there are many emotions we experience, there are only really two places they come from. All Emotions are either based from LOVE or FEAR. What about anger? That is a fear based Emotion. Anger is based on our frustration that we are powerless to solve a problem at any given moment in time.
How about Envy? That is also a fear based Emotion based on our perceived belief that someone is superior to us. Jealousy…yep! Fear based on what WE don’t have that someone does.
Fear based Emotions are created by a perception of LOSS. The thought that we may be hurt, abused, stolen from, mistreated, etc. is based on a fear of loss of some kind. What about hate? Once again, a fear that a thing, event or person may create some type of loss for us is what triggers the Emotion of hate. Bottom line, if it isn’t Love, it’s Fear.
What we say and how we say it has remarkable power subconsciously in our determination and perception of the events in our life.
Many people value success, but they also want to avoid feelings of failure (or feeling like a failure). The problem comes when a person’s fear or avoidance of failing prevents them from taking action and trying, or going through the necessary repetition of trial and error that it takes to master something. You’ll never get where you want to be by focusing on what you fear. You must focus on what you value rather than on what you want to avoid.
One of my favorite coaches once told me, “Kevin, your mind can only focus on one thought at a time. It can switch back and forth, but, ultimately you can’t think two things simultaneously, you are… either smart or stupid, strong or weak, successful or a failure… in your MIND, you either suck or you don’t.
You can’t hold more than one thought at a time. At any moment in time, you are either this or that, not both at the same time. So, choose wisely which one thought you want to hold on to.
All external events are inherently neutral until you respond mentally and assign an emotional context to them. Almost 90% of all fears are imaginary, and you, and your own thoughts and visualizations cause most of the harm IN your head. They are a product of your mind and do not exist in reality.
Take 20 minutes out of your day and listen to this episode of MindCast. I’ll show you which emotions are fear based, how to recognize them in yourself and others, and how to better manage these highly charged emotional reactions. Develop a Warrior Mindset too overcome life’s challenges and adversity. The more you know, the better you can be.
MindCast Episode #31 The Fear Factor